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Personal Change: 6 Ways to Deep Despair - Quickly

9/17/2020

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Many folks labor and struggle with ending bad habits and starting healthy ones – only to give up in despair.  But why bother with all the labor?  Why not just cut straight to the despair? 
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Save time and struggle by embracing my new guide entitled, “Personal Change: 6 Ways to Hit Deep Despair Quickly.”

#1 Hold fast to the idea that normal people change with willpower alone, without Divine blessing.  Conclude that your inability to change must simply mean that you and your willpower are defective. 

#2  Overlook the places in your life where you have experienced change.  If you do recall them, insist it was purely your strength, your intelligence, or luck. 

#3  Grab hard to the belief that your dark feelings are proof there’s something wrong with you.  Dismiss any notion that normal people have difficult moods.  And definitely dismiss the idea that you innocently amplify those moods by judging and resisting them. 

#4  Look for all kinds of causes for your moods and habits among the circumstances of your life.  Once you've identified them, fixate on controlling or escaping them. 

#5  Ignore the fact that you're not always stressed by those circumstances, that your sometimes fine with them.   In other words, do not let evidence of your resilience undermine the simple story that you are messed up.

#6   When difficult feelings come, demand of yourself to change them now.  If unable, recognize your only option is to run to a habit.  Don’t settle for the fake consolation of “being” in the present, of “accepting” your lack of absolute power, of “embracing” Divine contractions.   Nonsense.   Remember:  you cannot be with the pain.  It is too much.  You must disappear it or you will die.

And there you have it: The 6 Steps to Deep Despair.  Good luck!

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