During the Innate Health Conference we were blessed to just run, I listened as R. Shaul Rosenblatt and his wife Chana described his patience with her over the years. He understood that his wife’s ups and downs were just her feeling stuck in her thinking; he didn’t take her upsets personally nor as indications of some “problem” in her. Eventually, she was touched by his equilibrium, looked into the principles, and is now a gifted teacher of the ideas.
At the time, I found myself feeling so discouraged. I knew about the principles, had even by moved by them, but I wasn’t always so patient with my wife. I grabbed R. Shaul in one of the off sessions and expressed my pain and disappointment about my failure. He didn’t really flinch. I could feel his acceptance and his trust in my wisdom. There really wasn’t anything wrong.
“I had that lots with my first wife [who died from illness] and my second wife and I still have it,” he reassured me.
Something shifted. I saw my impatience with greater compassion.
After the conference was over, I sat with all my AV stuff and other supplies, waiting for my ride from Manhattan to New Jersey. I began to enjoy a nice rapport with one of the building maintenance staff.
“It’s so difficult,” he confided, “how people are not careful about how they dress in the summer. I don’t want to look at women like they’re objects, but sometimes I can’t help myself.”
I was impressed with his sensitivity. He saw his failure.
“Every man is subject to those temptations,” I said. “I’m happily married but I still need to be on guard.”
“Dude, you’re my man,” he said, his face lit up.
Like all people, he desperately wants to be good but gets discouraged by his thinking that he’s not.
There’s no contradiction: people have great wisdom and they also get lost; everyone is subject to the laws of personal thinking and to the laws of divine insight.